As I mentioned in a previous post, I recently helped out a girl I met on a night out. She’d been thrown from a car by a guy she knew, and was quite beaten up.
When she came up to us asking for help, specifically to use my phone, I was cautious. I mean, this girl could just rob me- the whole thing could be a set up. I didn’t just want to hand her my iPhone. The guys I was with obviously thought the same thing, and started to fob her off.
But what made me act was the thought that I hope someone would do the same for me. People talk about the “bro code” – an unspoken set of rules that guys follow: Don’t sleep with your mate’s ex, sister or relatives are some of the main tenants. Us girls have a similar set of unspoken rules, including:
- Rescue a girl if she’s being hit on and clearly doesn’t want the attention
- Don’t leave a girl alone on a night out
- Make sure your girlfriends get home safely
- Lend a girl a tampon if she needs one (unrelated but one of my favourites)
But at the end of the day, I would like to think that someone would do the same for me. I’m a runner, meaning I’m often out alone at night. Something bad could easily happen to me, and I just have to hope that 1. It wont; and 2. A complete stranger would come to my rescue. Trusting in strangers is one of the only reasons I still venture outside for my miles when it’s dark out. It’s not the best idea in the world, but you also can’t live in fear.
So here’s to the Girl Code!
Lots of love,