Mindfulness: The Girl Code

As I mentioned in a previous post, I recently helped out a girl I met on a night out. She’d been thrown from a car by a guy she knew, and was quite beaten up.

When she came up to us asking for help, specifically to use my phone, I was cautious. I mean, this girl could just rob me- the whole thing could be a set up. I didn’t just want to hand her my iPhone. The guys I was with obviously thought the same thing, and started to fob her off.

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But what made me act was the thought that I hope someone would do the same for me. People talk about the “bro code” – an unspoken set of rules that guys follow: Don’t sleep with your mate’s ex, sister or relatives are some of the main tenants. Us girls have a similar set of unspoken rules, including:

  • Rescue a girl if she’s being hit on and clearly doesn’t want the attention
  • Don’t leave a girl alone on a night out
  • Make sure your girlfriends get home safely
  • Lend a girl a tampon if she needs one (unrelated but one of my favourites)

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Helping this girl out was a complete pain in the ass if I’m completely honest. It was freezing cold and I just wanted to be indoors; she was lairy (understandably so) and wanted to tell everyone we passed what had happened to her; and she was quite drunk, meaning it was hard to get her to listen to us or do what we said. I don’t think we’d have been friends in real life.

But at the end of the day, I would like to think that someone would do the same for me. I’m a runner, meaning I’m often out alone at night. Something bad could easily happen to me, and I just have to hope that 1. It wont; and 2. A complete stranger would come to my rescue. Trusting in strangers is one of the only reasons I still venture outside for my miles when it’s dark out. It’s not the best idea in the world, but you also can’t live in fear.

So here’s to the Girl Code!


Lots of love,


6 thoughts on “Mindfulness: The Girl Code”

  1. I love this. I agree – so important to help a sister out! You mentioned something important here – that you were scared she might rob you, etc. It’s so sad that this is the kind of world we live in. You are awesome for helping her, even if she was annoying! I live in a pretty safe area, but the trails that I run on have had several instances of people who looked helpless asking runners for help, and then attacking the runner. I’d like to say that I would be as kind as to help her if I were in your situation, but it’s so crazy to think of the crazy people out there, too! You rock.

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    1. Oh my days that’s so scary! I’ve heard of so many incidences where the attacker plays on someone’s kindness and then attacks. I was probably only willing to do it because I had two guys with me- I’m sure they’d have been pretty useless actually but it made me feel more confident just knowing they were there!

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  2. that was a really awesome thing helping that girl out even if she was drunk and annoying and on the plus side she didnt steal your phone! i think women in general have to be more cautious then men but as a runner i tend to think im safer than i probably am. i did recently start running with my phone with the location on just in case.

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  3. I’m very suspicious of strangers and also really shy so I’m not sure I could have done this but I’d like to think I’m the type of person who would step up even if it scared me. We do need to look out for one another, after all.


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