Geni is a friend of mine from university, and one of the kindest people I know. She is all about building other people up and never tearing them down. She’s wise beyond her years and I always turn to her for advice. Even when I’m having a bad day, or beating myself up about something, I often think What would Geni say? – it’s usually something as simple as being kind to myself, or having a cup of tea and putting a movie on.
Recently I was forced out of my home by an unlucky combination of circumstances, and found myself lost in London. This was the icing on the cake of a draining year, and I was absolutely wrecked, but Geni stepped in. I stayed in her spare room for two months whilst I got back on my feet: I really don’t know where I’d be without her.
It was during my stay with Geni and her husband that I realized how much of herself she offers to others. She’s a motivator, a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on, all without expecting anything in return. She inspires me to be a better person, but I’m also more aware that she needs taking care of too. So now, I make more of an effort to be like her, and to make sure I lift her up just like she does to me.
Here are some of the ways we do this- please tell me yours!
- Buying eachother flowers
- Offering to kitten-sit (she has two adorable monsters that I adore)
- Sending hand-written cards
- Being available to each other via Whatsapp
I think the last one is the most simple and most effective. Just knowing that she’s on the other end of the phone is really comforting to me, and I enjoy checking in on her life, even when we’re on opposite sides of the world. Thank god for modern technology!
So that’s my mindfulness focus for the week: building people up and not tearing them down. It’s something I’ve been more able to do since Geni helped me put my life back together.
So tell me, how do you show your friends that you’re there for them? Is there a certain person in your life who inspires you to be better?
Lots of love