Mindfulness: Building people up

I recently read a post on Run Eat Repeat about women who build each other up. Almost immediately, a name jumped to mind. Funny how that happens.

Geni is a friend of mine from university, and one of the kindest people I know. She is all about building other people up and never tearing them down. She’s wise beyond her years and I always turn to her for advice. Even when I’m having a bad day, or beating myself up about something, I often think What would Geni say? – it’s usually something as simple as being kind to myself, or having a cup of tea and putting a movie on.

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Recently I was forced out of my home by an unlucky combination of circumstances, and found myself lost in London. This was the icing on the cake of a draining year, and I was absolutely wrecked, but Geni stepped in. I stayed in her spare room for two months whilst I got back on my feet: I really don’t know where I’d be without her.

It was during my stay with Geni and her husband that I realized how much of herself she offers to others. She’s a motivator, a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on, all without expecting anything in return. She inspires me to be a better person, but I’m also more aware that she needs taking care of too.  So now, I make more of an effort to be like her, and to make sure I lift her up just like she does to me.

Here are some of the ways we do this- please tell me yours!

  • Buying eachother flowers
  • Offering to kitten-sit (she has two adorable monsters that I adore)
  • Sending hand-written cards
  • Being available to each other via Whatsapp

I think the last one is the most simple and most effective. Just knowing that she’s on the other end of the phone is really comforting to me, and I enjoy checking in on her life, even when we’re on opposite sides of the world. Thank god for modern technology!

So that’s my mindfulness focus for the week: building people up and not tearing them down. It’s something I’ve been more able to do since Geni helped me put my life back together.

So tell me, how do you show your friends that you’re there for them? Is there a certain person in your life who inspires you to be better?

Lots of love

Pippa

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13 thoughts on “Mindfulness: Building people up

  1. This weekend was all about building my friends up and not about me. I am lucky to have a super supportive group of friends in my life. They all supported me and listened to me throughout my summer of crazy marathon training. This weekend, I ran a half marathon and did it for my friends. I paced one of my friends and crossed the finish line holding hands, and pushed another to do the race when everyone else told her no. She ran a PR! I was so proud of them. But they do the same thing for me and build me up. People like that are so important to have and cherish in your life!

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    1. That’s amazing! I really want to pace two of my friends through races (separately) as it’d be a great opportunity to share my love of running with them, along with doing something for them and not for me. They’re both keen and looking at races, but I guess my role starts early in encouraging them to make that leap and actually sign up. It’s so lovely to see the people you care about achieve something like that, so I can’t wait!

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  2. Hi Pippa,
    I love the simplicity and truth in your post. I think my husband who listens to me inspires me to be a better person. He has wise advice. I think just being in the moment and really listening without judgement to my family and friends, letting them vent, is so important and a part of being mindful. Thanks for your inspiration and reminder.

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  3. LOVE this post! I completely agree with everything you said! My bestie and I are absolutely this way for each other. Every Monday I do group therapy as part of my psychotherapy course and I leave an emotional mess every time- and I always call bestie and she is there for me (this actually happened again yesterday :)). I do the same for her and it makes me really happy 🙂

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  4. A few weeks ago, one of my friends talked about how we talk about the people who are sick and ask about how they are doing but we don’t visit them like we should. And today, she and I went to visit one of our church members. It’s easy to get busy and say a phone call is enough but it’s great to visit and hug the person, and I might not have done that if it wasn’t for her.
    She helps me be a more in-tune person.

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    1. That’s such a lovely gesture! Two of my friends have just moved to London and are getting caught up in the drinks and social culture, as well as grafting hard in their new careers. They’re completely exhausted, but they know I can always pop over for a cuppa and zonk out on the sofa with them- I think it helps that I barely drink so I’m always up for tea and chilling 🙂

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